Debbie is our Wedding Coordinator, Manager and all-round Superhero here at The Tudor Barn, Burnham. She’s helped to plan the weddings of around 900 couples, and is often called the ‘Wedding Mummy’ or ‘Fairy Godmother’! So what’s her secret? Let’s find out.
How long have your worked at The Tudor Barn, Burnham?
I’ve worked at the Barn for 13 years. I actually first started as a weekend waitress, and worked my way up. Now I’m Manager and Wedding Coordinator. I have so much passion for my job, I have the best job ever! It’s hard work, with long hours, but it’s so rewarding.
What does your job consist of?
I work with couples from the second they book, Emails, phone calls, meetings… I build such an amazing rapport with the couples, then on the day I get to be part of it all. That’s why it’s so nice here at The Tudor Barn. At some venues you don’t normally meet your wedding coordinator until six weeks before the day, then they’re either not present (a duty manager runs it) or they turn up for just a few hours. I’m there from start to finish! I get so emotionally involved and cry every week! I often meet up with past couples for dinner or drinks.
I also love running the Facebook page and get such amazing feed back from it. It’s like Pinterest for the Barn!
Any advice for couples planning their wedding?
I often remind couples this is your day, do what you want to do. You’re only going to do it once so enjoy every minute. If you want to dance all night instead of chatting with guests then do it, you can chat next time you see them. The day goes past so fast so enjoy every second.
And stop stressing over the smallest details, like a bow or a ribbon. On the day you won’t even notice it – and neither will your guests.
Also, there are 365 days in a year, bride and groom, don’t get drunk on this day. Pick from the other 364 days! I’ve helped many a groom or bride into a taxi at the end of the night, the next day to be told “I don’t remember anything after the meal”!
Are there any wedding trends you’ve seen taking off that brides-to-be should know about?
Thanks to the likes of Pinterest there are always new things I’m seeing all the time. Every wedding is different and personal to each couple. I’m very honest with couples, if they ask my opinion and I don’t think it will work I will say, I’m always full of ideas and suggestions. I’ve seen a lot of weddings to know what works and what doesn’t.
What’s been the best moment of a wedding here at the barn?
My best moment… There have been so many. Every wedding touches me, and no two weddings are the same. I do remember singing to “Angels” by Robbie Williams with the wedding party at the end of the night and losing my voice for three days as a result! And being asked by a bride to help pick her wedding dress.
My best – but saddest – was a bride a couple of years ago. She brought the wedding forward five months as she had terminal cancer and wasn’t going to make it to August. It was all very rushed (planned in four days) but with the help of friends, family and the groom we pulled it off. It was the most emotional wedding I’ve ever had the pleasure of being part of. The bride lost her fight to cancer two weeks after the wedding.
Truth is, I’m a hopeless romantic, I believe in happily ever after.
Thanks Debbie, what a lovely post.
The Tudor Barn Team